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Janelle Brown, Kody Brown

Janelle Browndidn’t want to pick sides, but she was effectively left with no choice.

The conflict between Janelle’s adult children and her former husband “put enough pressure” on her marriage to where she felt like “it really did break, more than it had ever before.”

“I felt like I had to walk this tightrope, I had to choose between having my boys in my house or having Kody there,” she explains. “So when Kody would come, the boys would have to be out of the house. I’d have to spray everything down with Lysol and stuff because he was very afraid of getting the virus from them. So yeah, it became really stressful. And then, it slowly evolved as they started to get angrier and angrier with each other.”

Janelle continues, “It slowly evolved to where it was like, ‘Well, they can go have their life and you’re going to stay here and we’re going to have a life with [our daughter] Savannah.’ And I’m like, ‘Well, I can’t just ignore three-quarters of my children.”

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The reality star notes how there were “fights, but there was no giving, there was no reconciliation. There was no gestures of, ‘Hey son, let’s figure this out.'”

“It was just anger and it was like, ‘My way or the highway. I’ve got to protect all these little kids,’ meaning Robin’s children,” she adds. “There was no give. … There was no gentleness, there was no forgiveness. It was just like, ‘This is it.’ And then I really felt like I had to choose.”

“I think what’s happened is when everybody moved out, I think it was kind of one of those things where we went, ‘Oh, how do we do this, just the two of us?'” Janelle tells Christine, 51, about how and why she began questioning her future with Kody as their children became adults.

“I don’t know what to do. We’re both sort of like, ‘OK, do we keep working for this?'” Janelle continues. “He seems so set about the kids respecting him and my kids are like, ‘What?'”

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